2 thoughts on “How to give gifts for those troublesome things are not embarrassing”
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On this beautiful day of "Golden Nine Silver Ten", many people ran around at the wedding scene of large and small. In the great days, when the new people are busy with the wedding, the most important thing for the guests except for the gift of the ceremony is the "gift". How can I have less money to attend the wedding? A red -brilliant ledger, one page after page, one after another ... When this heavy red book attached a stack of cash to the master's hands, the wedding ended perfectly. The small wedding banner seems simple, but there are many unknown right stories hidden in it. This week, we interviewed many citizens to listen to the things they have experienced together with gifts. a "deliberately not to be ritual" only giving gifts and not returning. n At this age, the family's basics are basically a family. I just got married in September this year. If I didn't experience it myself, I really dare not believe it. Someone would really not give you "gifts". One month before marriage, I started to notify people one after another. Good buddies asked me, "Is it Lin Tao (pseudonym)?" I said, "Cost." Lin Tao is our high school classmate. He got married in October last year. I attended the wedding and followed the money of 300 yuan. "I told it, he would definitely not give you a gift!" The buddy looked determined, saying that Lin Tao was not "returned" by Lin Tao. I was a little hesitant. Anyway, I got along with Lin Tao for 3 years. I felt that others were pretty good. When I called him that day, they also gave me good joy and said that there would be time to come. . When I got the gift list, I really didn't see Lin Tao's name. After inquiring, on the wedding day, he didn't show up at all, and he didn't care for him. Good guy, there are such people! The buddy said that it was an accident without the gift, and it was not a "accident" twice. Moreover, when he met again, he was like nothing, and never explained. Originally, it was a matter of ritual exchanges. As a result, it seemed that it was really necessary to consider "whether the boat of friendship was going to turn" ... because of the "return gift". He was in our circle of friends " "Betal." Before he got married, everyone often had relationships. But after he got married, his distance farther away from us. The guys seemed to recognize him, and he had pulled him into the "blacklist" of his friend in silence. Is get married, only send blessings and not ceremonies The teller: Jinzhong netizen "Qingfeng Xulai" female 27 -year -old institution employee I got married in January this year. When it comes to gifts related to gifts, there is a little bit of heart in my heart. Bet before notifying the guests, I consider it repeatedly and try to choose close friends. I have taken conservative measures for those friends who have interaction on weekdays, but the friendship is not very deep. Costing, some of these people are much older than me. People have long been married, and they will give you a gift to you, which will inevitably be annoying. Therefore, I carefully selected a list, which is basically a good old classmate and old friend, or although it is not long when I get along, but I feel that I will continue to maintain friendship. The list includes a university classmate -Xiaoxue (pseudonym), who is the same classmate with me. The circle of girls in college was relatively small, in the dormitory as the unit. Xiaoxue and I are not a dormitory, but because we have participated in a community at the same time, we have a lot of intersections. More importantly, they are still in the same unit after graduation. Therefore, in my heart, I believe that I should notify her when I get married. At that time, I deliberately sent her invitation. The day of marriage, more than an hour before the start of the wedding, I received Xiaoxue's WeChat language. She said that she could not attend the wedding. By the way, she said a few words of blessings. After I expressed gratitude, I replied to say "Gathering afterwards." After getting married for more than a week, when I looked at the ceremony, I couldn't help but feel a little sad. I didn't see Xiaoxue's name or received a WeChat red envelope from her. She got married earlier. At that time, for some reason, she only held a wedding in her hometown, and did not invite the unit or other friends. At that time, I also asked her, she said it a little bit, "It's hard to say a word." The wedding can only be so simple and hasty, and said she would not invite. Later, she became pregnant and had her own child. I don't know if I didn't give her a gift at the time. She might feel a little loss, so she saved money. But this matter really makes me feel a little uncomfortable, I invite her not to have a gift. At that time, I was still thinking that when I got married, I had a chance to see the children of Xiaoxue. By the way, I wrapped a big red envelope. Don't make people feel "losing". But after reading the gift list, I was a little hesitant ... Friendship really couldn't measure money, but did the money reflect something from one aspect? b "I have no intention of forgetting the ceremony" . I did n’t pay attention to the gift and was hacked by my girlfriend. I still have a puppet in my heart. My name is Wang Qian, and the university is on Xiamen. At that time, because I was far away from home, I didn't usually come back. A girl who went out was still very hard, so when I knew that there was a girl in the dormitory next door, it was also Shanxi, how happy it was. At school, we often mixed together. Later, I graduated. I went to work in a bank in Taiyuan. She returned to Yuncheng. Sometimes she was not busy with work and occasionally called. The bank work is actually very busy, and I usually do n’t let my mobile phone, and I have n’t been familiar with many businesses. Sometimes I am busy for a day, I want to go to bed quickly when I go home. Earlier last month, I received a call from this girlfriend. She said that she was going to get married on October 3, and wanted me to send her, but that day I was on duty. Just hung the phone. In I was busy. On the last day of the National Day, I went home to lie on the bed at night to brush the circle of friends to watch everyone's "National Day Photography Contest". When I saw someone taking wedding photos, I suddenly remembered that my girlfriend's wedding had passed. A cold sweat was shocked all of a sudden, I forgot to give me the gift! Hurry up and find her avatar, transferred 1,000 yuan, but did not expect to send a failure. The screen showed "the other party is not your friend." I called in the past. In order to make up, I found another friend to transfer the gift money to her. But this friend returned embarrassedly. After that, this girlfriend complained in the group of classmates coldly, making rumors, and I was not human inside and outside. As soon as I was angry, I also hit in the group, but everyone quarreled. I finally sent a text message to her, saying that they were well -safe in the future and did not disturb each other. A good buddies did not give up on the gift. Originally, the best man "lost duty" The describe: Provincial capital netizen "strong ~ Fight" male 28 -year -old training institution in charge marriage is a lifetime event. I was married this year. Within a few days after the marriage, my parents gave me the gift account. Among them, my friends, colleagues, and classmates were listed deliberately. After getting married, I became independent, and these people had to return slowly in the future. When sorting out the account, I found that a buddy did not give me a gift. After reading the first gift list, I didn't believe it in my heart, but my friends who grew up together since I was a child, how could I not be ceremonial for ten years? After turning over WeChat red envelopes and Alipay accounts, there is indeed no record of contacts. At first, there was a trace of sadness in my heart. But when I thought about it, I felt that it was not a matter. With my understanding of his more than ten years, there must be a cause. Moreover, the real brother doesn't care about this. . Within a few days, the best man called and said that the buddy asked him to give him a gift and sent him a WeChat red envelope. But because I was a bit busy on the day of marriage, I still forgot about it. Because the red envelope did not receive the red envelope in time, the money returned. How busy people are, it is normal to encounter such a thing. Later, when he met his buddies again, he was also embarrassed. He said that he had sent a red envelope to call the best man. He asked him to give him a gift. I smiled and said, "It's okay." This feet before and after the marriage period, there are no days. Later, he got married, and in accordance with the rules of the gift, I did not give him a gift. But when he got married, I also went to help, and he was happy with his buddies. Originally, the gift was a thing of one past one. How much do you put on and how much the other party returned, it was popular. "Li" can not be put, but human feelings cannot be broken! c "Gift imbalance" I friends got married, I got 500, he returned 568 yuan, there was a good auspicious number, making me feel very warm Female 29 -year -old foreign -owned enterprise staff Speaking of gift money, there is a number of numbers that has made me remember -568 yuan. This is the only one in all my gift list accounts. A friend of a opposite sex Xiaowei. I I met with Xiaowei when I was in college. Xiaowei and one of my girlfriends are high school classmates. We are all in a university, but we are not in the department. Recommended by my girlfriend, I met Xiaowei, and he was a person who was willing to make friends. Xiaowei is 183cm tall, with a strong physique, and looks very secure. At that time, he was very entrepreneurial and had been doing all kinds of part -time jobs. Because of the relationship between girlfriends, we gradually became familiar and often eat and chat together. Sometimes, he will follow him with part -time job. The three of us became the "three swordsmen on the campus" and said nothing. After graduation, everyone ran each other. He stayed in the provincial capital, and I went to the south, and my girlfriend returned to my hometown. Of the three of us, he was the first to get married, because in other provinces, it was inconvenient to go. I deliberately asked my girlfriend to pay a 500 yuan gift, expressing their blessings. Later, it was my turn to get married. When I was invited in the provincial capital, Xiaowei came as one of the few friends of the opposite sex. Interestingly, he deliberately prepared a brand new change, put up a Geely figure of 568 yuan, and gave me a gift. When I saw the bill, I laughed. I didn't expect such a rough man, and there was such a delicate heart. Because of their respective family, because of their own family, we have gradually contacted us after marriage, but this friendship and intention have made me very nostalgic. The return of his gift is 200 yuan less than my number of years, but this does not affect the relationship between our two The describer: Provincial netizens "struggle" male 30 -year -old college faculty n A friend is Xiao Guo, he is a classmate in my college. In the year of the senior year, Xiao Guo got married. As a good buddy, I discussed with several other students to give him 700 yuan. At that time, as a college student at school, such a member of such a member was very heavy, but I felt that the good buddies got married and the gift seemed to be affectionate. This year, I got married. Xiao Guo gave me 500 yuan, which was 200 yuan less than my number. Moreover, it has been 5 years from his marriage to my marriage. But in my opinion, the missing two Grandpa Mao was not enough to use it to measure our friendship. Xiao Guo is a diligent, hard -working and practical person, and is particularly capable in everyone's eyes. At that time, we were studying together in the provincial capital, and he was also a man. In the four -year college time, he has lived very fully every day and never wants to deserted. In the freshman year, he founded a community called "Inspirational Society" with a group of classmates to participate in the event. He once walked from the provincial capital to Taigu Nongda, and his classmates called him "inspirational brother". Many of his ideas are consistent with me. We can always talk together. Later, I followed him to engage in activities in the community. From college to graduation, and now to work, we often come out to talk about life, talk about ideals. At that time, the reason why he chose to get married was to stabilize. After the marriage, he worked even harder. He always started his own business. He operated two training institutions under his hand and wore the moon every day. When I got married, he was so busy that he had no time to attend the wedding. Although he only went to 500 yuan, I knew that it represented his mind, and he didn't care about those so -called "return" rules. Usually, we eat, he knows that my economic conditions are not very good, and basically he pays for him every time. So, how can we be considered clear between us? How could I care about the 200 yuan less? D "intentional gift type" The students who have not contacted for many years have built a group to declare that they are going to get married The teller: Chen Lunan 25 -year -old company staff n "Although they have entered the age of the old man, many students and friends around them are still single. Last week, I went home to watch WeChat and found that I was inexplicably pulled into a junior high school classmate group. The students who had lost contact for many years appeared in it. Seeing in the group, everyone was very happy, talked a few more words, and exchanged contact information of a few friends. The owner said that he was married in a few days. The students who hadn't seen each other for many years expressed congratulations and lamented that the time flies. After a few words of greeting, we went to each other. did not expect that the group owner suddenly clicked on the name of many people in the group yesterday, saying that he was married today, and finally said goodbye to the single, celebrating to celebrate, and to make everyone getting his joy. Send a red envelope to celebrate. I still said in a joke: "It is a very impolite behavior to get married. Everyone hurriedly sent the red envelope over, and you must not get it mistakes." As soon as this remark, someone really sent him a red envelope to him Essence I was ashamed, and I thought that this pierced group was a empty -glove white wolf trap. Sure enough, when the group owner said this, friends and friends chatted and fry the pot. " Obviously, master, absolute master. "" Damn, this marriage is simply crowdfunding. "" Do you say that he will add another group when he is married? " Due to love, everyone sent him 66.66 yuan, which means six or six Dasun. After this incident, no one was talking about that group. Later, when I sent a blessing in the group, I found that I had been moved out of the group. e "Requirement" The college classmates called 500 yuan more, hoping to refund I remembered a strange thing I experienced recently -an unmarried university classmate said that he had more gifts and asked to refund. says that when I was married, I went to the southern honeymoon. In the meantime, I received a call from the university classmate Fangfang (pseudonym). The other party told me on the phone: On the day I got married, in addition to her, she also helped three other people at the same time, 3 600 yuan, 1 500 yuan. Originally, she had prepared 2,300 yuan in advance and put it in the wallet. However, at the time of the gift, there may be too many people, and I don't know what it is. I found that the money in my hand was 500 yuan less. Helpless, she could only go back to the seat first, and borrowed 500 yuan with another classmate, and re -ceremonially gave up. "I remember clearly, holding 2,300 yuan in my hand, it should not be 500 yuan ... Maybe I have more, it should be more." There was a problem with the gift or other aspects, I hope I will refund the money to her. Well, I did n’t care about the account after the marriage. I do n’t know what the situation, and I do n’t know. Moreover, the uncle who did n’t listen to the account said that the number of gifts was different. After the situation, answer her. hanging up the phone, I was a little panicked. I have more and less, I have heard a lot of more, but I can ask for the gift to refund the gold. Moreover, Fangfang is not married. If you really get it, I will return it to the other party. Just, let me return. The wedding event of marriage, when I encountered such a thing, I really felt a little bit congested. finished the honeymoon degree, and I went home and deliberately checked the ledger. It was indeed as Fangfang said. She gave everyone a gift twice. For a page, the amount displayed under the names of these four people is right, 300 yuan and 1 500 yuan, which cannot be seen. With Fangfang's name tightly, I checked one by one, and I couldn't find a problem. Moreover, the total number of accounts could be paid, and there was no more 500 yuan. After watching it a few times, I told Fangfang about the situation. She listened a little unhappy and said that she could only recognize it by itself. But the great thing, when I encountered this situation, did I be panicked? Qizui and eight tongue Ritary gold listening to what netizens say The netizens "spicy rough noodles": gifts are not yet dark, all hate these people most, as if all over the world in the world, as if all over the world in the world Others are fools, so they are the smartest. The netizen "selling cute pandas": Let's get 500 yuan? He returned 200 yuan? I know that her bookkeeper may not be found, and I don't remember how much you gave, but in her heart, your relationship may only be worth 200 yuan, or she estimates that you used to get 200 yuan before Yuan. The netizen "": What you want, what you want to be short, why care too much. Do n’t think of getting it back if you have sent it out, so you wo n’t be angry. In the future, people will have to come and go, then they will not lose their own. In case of Shi Shen Dahai, friendship is gone, so why do you still remember the money? The netizen "grow with me": It can see through a person by spending hundreds of dollars. It is also worth it in a sense! The netizen "Luca": Last high school classmates asked me to attend her wedding. As a result, I couldn't go. She asked directly: "Gifts WeChat or Alipay? It is best to use Alipay, WeChat 1000 1000 The quota is full, I will get the fee for cash. "I just wanted to say," I'm dizzy. " The netizen" Xiao Tang loves to eat noodles ": Suddenly jumped out and announced that I was going to get married, and I really collapsed. When I met such a person, I immediately said that I would also be married or the child full of moon the day after tomorrow, so I wo n’t ask you for gifts. To extension reading How to give gifts and return gifts? The Chinese people who have advocated "ritual exchanges" since ancient times, and pay attention to human relationships, how can they get closer to the relationship when giving gifts and returning gifts, instead of being embarrassing. In fact, it is very knowledgeable. The so -called "coming but not politeness" reflects each other's exchanges. If you just "only come and go" or "there is no coming", it will become an imbalance in the relationship. First of all, make a record. When others give gifts, it is best to make a record so that you can do the bottom of your heart when you return the gift. Although it is a heart to give more gifts, it is best to come with the customs and local general markets. The companion discussed that everyone was the same number, so as not to cause criticism. Secondly, gifts should be abandoned. Ritual lightness is a one -sided approach to measuring each other's relationship with money, and emotional supremacy is the key. At present, some areas in Shandong Province and the Yuncheng area of Shanxi Province have retained a little more attention when returning the gift. Do not go to 200 yuan and drag your family to take your mouth to get the wedding banquet. After all, the price of the wedding banquet has increased. . In addition, it is most important to do with force. Although we have always emphasized whether the relationship is close or not lies not in the gift of gifts. Everyone's own situation is different. We must determine according to our own economic situation. Quotes. In abroad, newcomers will attach a URL when sending invitations, which are the "list list" most needed for newcomers. Generally, the amount will not be too high. Guests only need to buy the same purchase and give it to the newcomers, which is simpler than simple ones. Gifts are more memorable.
The copper odor stirred the life of life Wedding, which is an important time of life in life. He Xi, originally expressed with warmth. However, when the acceptance of gifts becomes a gesture of wedding, for many people, participating in weddings becomes a burden. P. More people, all colleagues, distant relatives, etc. who have rarely exchanged between the same time are collected and invited one by one to invite participation. Those invited people were afraid of "cynical", so they had to endure the pain. Someone always calculated that this time I gave him (her) so many gifts. The next time it was me (or my child) to get married, he must notify him or she to participate. It was better to return the money from me here, and it was better to have more, making me a little "surplus". The sending and closing is a utilitarian calculation, and even evolved into a request, and the acceptance of gift money is almost ugly. In this way, "you come and go" will form a evil cycle and spread. We cannot stop a wedding tradition that lasted for thousands of years, but at least let it be as far away from utilitarianism as much as possible, stay away from claiming, and stay away from ugliness. And this starts with the organizers and participants of the wedding. Everyone thinks more about love and righteousness, and do less simple calculations, so as not to let the copper odor disturb the wedding, the life ceremony for everyone.
On this beautiful day of "Golden Nine Silver Ten", many people ran around at the wedding scene of large and small. In the great days, when the new people are busy with the wedding, the most important thing for the guests except for the gift of the ceremony is the "gift". How can I have less money to attend the wedding? A red -brilliant ledger, one page after page, one after another ... When this heavy red book attached a stack of cash to the master's hands, the wedding ended perfectly.
The small wedding banner seems simple, but there are many unknown right stories hidden in it. This week, we interviewed many citizens to listen to the things they have experienced together with gifts.
a "deliberately not to be ritual"
only giving gifts and not returning. n At this age, the family's basics are basically a family. I just got married in September this year. If I didn't experience it myself, I really dare not believe it. Someone would really not give you "gifts".
One month before marriage, I started to notify people one after another. Good buddies asked me, "Is it Lin Tao (pseudonym)?" I said, "Cost." Lin Tao is our high school classmate. He got married in October last year. I attended the wedding and followed the money of 300 yuan. "I told it, he would definitely not give you a gift!" The buddy looked determined, saying that Lin Tao was not "returned" by Lin Tao. I was a little hesitant. Anyway, I got along with Lin Tao for 3 years. I felt that others were pretty good. When I called him that day, they also gave me good joy and said that there would be time to come.
. When I got the gift list, I really didn't see Lin Tao's name. After inquiring, on the wedding day, he didn't show up at all, and he didn't care for him. Good guy, there are such people! The buddy said that it was an accident without the gift, and it was not a "accident" twice. Moreover, when he met again, he was like nothing, and never explained. Originally, it was a matter of ritual exchanges. As a result, it seemed that it was really necessary to consider "whether the boat of friendship was going to turn" ...
because of the "return gift". He was in our circle of friends " "Betal." Before he got married, everyone often had relationships. But after he got married, his distance farther away from us. The guys seemed to recognize him, and he had pulled him into the "blacklist" of his friend in silence.
Is get married, only send blessings and not ceremonies
The teller: Jinzhong netizen "Qingfeng Xulai" female 27 -year -old institution employee
I got married in January this year. When it comes to gifts related to gifts, there is a little bit of heart in my heart.
Bet before notifying the guests, I consider it repeatedly and try to choose close friends. I have taken conservative measures for those friends who have interaction on weekdays, but the friendship is not very deep. Costing, some of these people are much older than me. People have long been married, and they will give you a gift to you, which will inevitably be annoying. Therefore, I carefully selected a list, which is basically a good old classmate and old friend, or although it is not long when I get along, but I feel that I will continue to maintain friendship.
The list includes a university classmate -Xiaoxue (pseudonym), who is the same classmate with me. The circle of girls in college was relatively small, in the dormitory as the unit. Xiaoxue and I are not a dormitory, but because we have participated in a community at the same time, we have a lot of intersections. More importantly, they are still in the same unit after graduation. Therefore, in my heart, I believe that I should notify her when I get married. At that time, I deliberately sent her invitation.
The day of marriage, more than an hour before the start of the wedding, I received Xiaoxue's WeChat language. She said that she could not attend the wedding. By the way, she said a few words of blessings. After I expressed gratitude, I replied to say "Gathering afterwards." After getting married for more than a week, when I looked at the ceremony, I couldn't help but feel a little sad. I didn't see Xiaoxue's name or received a WeChat red envelope from her. She got married earlier. At that time, for some reason, she only held a wedding in her hometown, and did not invite the unit or other friends. At that time, I also asked her, she said it a little bit, "It's hard to say a word." The wedding can only be so simple and hasty, and said she would not invite. Later, she became pregnant and had her own child.
I don't know if I didn't give her a gift at the time. She might feel a little loss, so she saved money. But this matter really makes me feel a little uncomfortable, I invite her not to have a gift. At that time, I was still thinking that when I got married, I had a chance to see the children of Xiaoxue. By the way, I wrapped a big red envelope. Don't make people feel "losing". But after reading the gift list, I was a little hesitant ... Friendship really couldn't measure money, but did the money reflect something from one aspect?
b "I have no intention of forgetting the ceremony"
. I did n’t pay attention to the gift and was hacked by my girlfriend. I still have a puppet in my heart. My name is Wang Qian, and the university is on Xiamen. At that time, because I was far away from home, I didn't usually come back. A girl who went out was still very hard, so when I knew that there was a girl in the dormitory next door, it was also Shanxi, how happy it was. At school, we often mixed together. Later, I graduated. I went to work in a bank in Taiyuan. She returned to Yuncheng. Sometimes she was not busy with work and occasionally called.
The bank work is actually very busy, and I usually do n’t let my mobile phone, and I have n’t been familiar with many businesses. Sometimes I am busy for a day, I want to go to bed quickly when I go home. Earlier last month, I received a call from this girlfriend. She said that she was going to get married on October 3, and wanted me to send her, but that day I was on duty. Just hung the phone.
In I was busy. On the last day of the National Day, I went home to lie on the bed at night to brush the circle of friends to watch everyone's "National Day Photography Contest". When I saw someone taking wedding photos, I suddenly remembered that my girlfriend's wedding had passed. A cold sweat was shocked all of a sudden, I forgot to give me the gift! Hurry up and find her avatar, transferred 1,000 yuan, but did not expect to send a failure. The screen showed "the other party is not your friend."
I called in the past. In order to make up, I found another friend to transfer the gift money to her. But this friend returned embarrassedly. After that, this girlfriend complained in the group of classmates coldly, making rumors, and I was not human inside and outside. As soon as I was angry, I also hit in the group, but everyone quarreled. I finally sent a text message to her, saying that they were well -safe in the future and did not disturb each other.
A good buddies did not give up on the gift. Originally, the best man "lost duty"
The describe: Provincial capital netizen "strong ~ Fight" male 28 -year -old training institution in charge
marriage is a lifetime event. I was married this year. Within a few days after the marriage, my parents gave me the gift account. Among them, my friends, colleagues, and classmates were listed deliberately. After getting married, I became independent, and these people had to return slowly in the future. When sorting out the account, I found that a buddy did not give me a gift. After reading the first gift list, I didn't believe it in my heart, but my friends who grew up together since I was a child, how could I not be ceremonial for ten years? After turning over WeChat red envelopes and Alipay accounts, there is indeed no record of contacts. At first, there was a trace of sadness in my heart. But when I thought about it, I felt that it was not a matter. With my understanding of his more than ten years, there must be a cause. Moreover, the real brother doesn't care about this.
. Within a few days, the best man called and said that the buddy asked him to give him a gift and sent him a WeChat red envelope. But because I was a bit busy on the day of marriage, I still forgot about it. Because the red envelope did not receive the red envelope in time, the money returned. How busy people are, it is normal to encounter such a thing. Later, when he met his buddies again, he was also embarrassed. He said that he had sent a red envelope to call the best man. He asked him to give him a gift. I smiled and said, "It's okay."
This feet before and after the marriage period, there are no days. Later, he got married, and in accordance with the rules of the gift, I did not give him a gift. But when he got married, I also went to help, and he was happy with his buddies. Originally, the gift was a thing of one past one. How much do you put on and how much the other party returned, it was popular. "Li" can not be put, but human feelings cannot be broken!
c "Gift imbalance"
I friends got married, I got 500, he returned 568 yuan, there was a good auspicious number, making me feel very warm
Female 29 -year -old foreign -owned enterprise staff
Speaking of gift money, there is a number of numbers that has made me remember -568 yuan. This is the only one in all my gift list accounts. A friend of a opposite sex Xiaowei.
I I met with Xiaowei when I was in college. Xiaowei and one of my girlfriends are high school classmates. We are all in a university, but we are not in the department. Recommended by my girlfriend, I met Xiaowei, and he was a person who was willing to make friends. Xiaowei is 183cm tall, with a strong physique, and looks very secure. At that time, he was very entrepreneurial and had been doing all kinds of part -time jobs. Because of the relationship between girlfriends, we gradually became familiar and often eat and chat together. Sometimes, he will follow him with part -time job. The three of us became the "three swordsmen on the campus" and said nothing.
After graduation, everyone ran each other. He stayed in the provincial capital, and I went to the south, and my girlfriend returned to my hometown. Of the three of us, he was the first to get married, because in other provinces, it was inconvenient to go. I deliberately asked my girlfriend to pay a 500 yuan gift, expressing their blessings. Later, it was my turn to get married. When I was invited in the provincial capital, Xiaowei came as one of the few friends of the opposite sex. Interestingly, he deliberately prepared a brand new change, put up a Geely figure of 568 yuan, and gave me a gift. When I saw the bill, I laughed. I didn't expect such a rough man, and there was such a delicate heart.
Because of their respective family, because of their own family, we have gradually contacted us after marriage, but this friendship and intention have made me very nostalgic.
The return of his gift is 200 yuan less than my number of years, but this does not affect the relationship between our two
The describer: Provincial netizens "struggle" male 30 -year -old college faculty n A friend is Xiao Guo, he is a classmate in my college. In the year of the senior year, Xiao Guo got married. As a good buddy, I discussed with several other students to give him 700 yuan. At that time, as a college student at school, such a member of such a member was very heavy, but I felt that the good buddies got married and the gift seemed to be affectionate.
This year, I got married. Xiao Guo gave me 500 yuan, which was 200 yuan less than my number. Moreover, it has been 5 years from his marriage to my marriage. But in my opinion, the missing two Grandpa Mao was not enough to use it to measure our friendship.
Xiao Guo is a diligent, hard -working and practical person, and is particularly capable in everyone's eyes. At that time, we were studying together in the provincial capital, and he was also a man. In the four -year college time, he has lived very fully every day and never wants to deserted. In the freshman year, he founded a community called "Inspirational Society" with a group of classmates to participate in the event. He once walked from the provincial capital to Taigu Nongda, and his classmates called him "inspirational brother". Many of his ideas are consistent with me. We can always talk together. Later, I followed him to engage in activities in the community. From college to graduation, and now to work, we often come out to talk about life, talk about ideals. At that time, the reason why he chose to get married was to stabilize. After the marriage, he worked even harder. He always started his own business. He operated two training institutions under his hand and wore the moon every day. When I got married, he was so busy that he had no time to attend the wedding. Although he only went to 500 yuan, I knew that it represented his mind, and he didn't care about those so -called "return" rules. Usually, we eat, he knows that my economic conditions are not very good, and basically he pays for him every time. So, how can we be considered clear between us? How could I care about the 200 yuan less?
D "intentional gift type"
The students who have not contacted for many years have built a group to declare that they are going to get married
The teller: Chen Lunan 25 -year -old company staff n "Although they have entered the age of the old man, many students and friends around them are still single. Last week, I went home to watch WeChat and found that I was inexplicably pulled into a junior high school classmate group. The students who had lost contact for many years appeared in it. Seeing in the group, everyone was very happy, talked a few more words, and exchanged contact information of a few friends. The owner said that he was married in a few days. The students who hadn't seen each other for many years expressed congratulations and lamented that the time flies. After a few words of greeting, we went to each other.
did not expect that the group owner suddenly clicked on the name of many people in the group yesterday, saying that he was married today, and finally said goodbye to the single, celebrating to celebrate, and to make everyone getting his joy. Send a red envelope to celebrate. I still said in a joke: "It is a very impolite behavior to get married. Everyone hurriedly sent the red envelope over, and you must not get it mistakes."
As soon as this remark, someone really sent him a red envelope to him Essence I was ashamed, and I thought that this pierced group was a empty -glove white wolf trap. Sure enough, when the group owner said this, friends and friends chatted and fry the pot. " Obviously, master, absolute master. "" Damn, this marriage is simply crowdfunding. "" Do you say that he will add another group when he is married? " Due to love, everyone sent him 66.66 yuan, which means six or six Dasun. After this incident, no one was talking about that group. Later, when I sent a blessing in the group, I found that I had been moved out of the group.
e "Requirement"
The college classmates called 500 yuan more, hoping to refund
I remembered a strange thing I experienced recently -an unmarried university classmate said that he had more gifts and asked to refund.
says that when I was married, I went to the southern honeymoon. In the meantime, I received a call from the university classmate Fangfang (pseudonym). The other party told me on the phone: On the day I got married, in addition to her, she also helped three other people at the same time, 3 600 yuan, 1 500 yuan. Originally, she had prepared 2,300 yuan in advance and put it in the wallet. However, at the time of the gift, there may be too many people, and I don't know what it is. I found that the money in my hand was 500 yuan less. Helpless, she could only go back to the seat first, and borrowed 500 yuan with another classmate, and re -ceremonially gave up. "I remember clearly, holding 2,300 yuan in my hand, it should not be 500 yuan ... Maybe I have more, it should be more." There was a problem with the gift or other aspects, I hope I will refund the money to her.
Well, I did n’t care about the account after the marriage. I do n’t know what the situation, and I do n’t know. Moreover, the uncle who did n’t listen to the account said that the number of gifts was different. After the situation, answer her.
hanging up the phone, I was a little panicked. I have more and less, I have heard a lot of more, but I can ask for the gift to refund the gold. Moreover, Fangfang is not married. If you really get it, I will return it to the other party. Just, let me return. The wedding event of marriage, when I encountered such a thing, I really felt a little bit congested.
finished the honeymoon degree, and I went home and deliberately checked the ledger. It was indeed as Fangfang said. She gave everyone a gift twice. For a page, the amount displayed under the names of these four people is right, 300 yuan and 1 500 yuan, which cannot be seen. With Fangfang's name tightly, I checked one by one, and I couldn't find a problem. Moreover, the total number of accounts could be paid, and there was no more 500 yuan. After watching it a few times, I told Fangfang about the situation. She listened a little unhappy and said that she could only recognize it by itself. But the great thing, when I encountered this situation, did I be panicked?
Qizui and eight tongue
Ritary gold listening to what netizens say
The netizens "spicy rough noodles": gifts are not yet dark, all hate these people most, as if all over the world in the world, as if all over the world in the world Others are fools, so they are the smartest.
The netizen "selling cute pandas": Let's get 500 yuan? He returned 200 yuan? I know that her bookkeeper may not be found, and I don't remember how much you gave, but in her heart, your relationship may only be worth 200 yuan, or she estimates that you used to get 200 yuan before Yuan.
The netizen "": What you want, what you want to be short, why care too much. Do n’t think of getting it back if you have sent it out, so you wo n’t be angry. In the future, people will have to come and go, then they will not lose their own. In case of Shi Shen Dahai, friendship is gone, so why do you still remember the money?
The netizen "grow with me": It can see through a person by spending hundreds of dollars. It is also worth it in a sense!
The netizen "Luca": Last high school classmates asked me to attend her wedding. As a result, I couldn't go. She asked directly: "Gifts WeChat or Alipay? It is best to use Alipay, WeChat 1000 1000 The quota is full, I will get the fee for cash. "I just wanted to say," I'm dizzy. "
The netizen" Xiao Tang loves to eat noodles ": Suddenly jumped out and announced that I was going to get married, and I really collapsed. When I met such a person, I immediately said that I would also be married or the child full of moon the day after tomorrow, so I wo n’t ask you for gifts.
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How to give gifts and return gifts?
The Chinese people who have advocated "ritual exchanges" since ancient times, and pay attention to human relationships, how can they get closer to the relationship when giving gifts and returning gifts, instead of being embarrassing. In fact, it is very knowledgeable. The so -called "coming but not politeness" reflects each other's exchanges. If you just "only come and go" or "there is no coming", it will become an imbalance in the relationship.
First of all, make a record. When others give gifts, it is best to make a record so that you can do the bottom of your heart when you return the gift. Although it is a heart to give more gifts, it is best to come with the customs and local general markets. The companion discussed that everyone was the same number, so as not to cause criticism.
Secondly, gifts should be abandoned. Ritual lightness is a one -sided approach to measuring each other's relationship with money, and emotional supremacy is the key. At present, some areas in Shandong Province and the Yuncheng area of Shanxi Province have retained a little more attention when returning the gift. Do not go to 200 yuan and drag your family to take your mouth to get the wedding banquet. After all, the price of the wedding banquet has increased.
. In addition, it is most important to do with force. Although we have always emphasized whether the relationship is close or not lies not in the gift of gifts. Everyone's own situation is different. We must determine according to our own economic situation. Quotes.
In abroad, newcomers will attach a URL when sending invitations, which are the "list list" most needed for newcomers. Generally, the amount will not be too high. Guests only need to buy the same purchase and give it to the newcomers, which is simpler than simple ones. Gifts are more memorable.
The copper odor stirred the life of life
Wedding, which is an important time of life in life. He Xi, originally expressed with warmth. However, when the acceptance of gifts becomes a gesture of wedding, for many people, participating in weddings becomes a burden.
P. More people, all colleagues, distant relatives, etc. who have rarely exchanged between the same time are collected and invited one by one to invite participation. Those invited people were afraid of "cynical", so they had to endure the pain. Someone always calculated that this time I gave him (her) so many gifts. The next time it was me (or my child) to get married, he must notify him or she to participate. It was better to return the money from me here, and it was better to have more, making me a little "surplus".
The sending and closing is a utilitarian calculation, and even evolved into a request, and the acceptance of gift money is almost ugly. In this way, "you come and go" will form a evil cycle and spread. We cannot stop a wedding tradition that lasted for thousands of years, but at least let it be as far away from utilitarianism as much as possible, stay away from claiming, and stay away from ugliness. And this starts with the organizers and participants of the wedding. Everyone thinks more about love and righteousness, and do less simple calculations, so as not to let the copper odor disturb the wedding, the life ceremony for everyone.
How can you be embarrassed, he buys fruit, you can return to the fruit, buy a drink and return to the drink